Thoughts on sexuality.

From my perspective, understanding sexuality is like exploring the "far side of the moon," which we refer to as the dark side of the moon.

The moon is not dark; it receives light from the sun; it is just her fixed position on the earth that makes us say it is dark.

Sexuality is a place we know exists but can't really see or understand. We’re aware of it; we catch glimpses, and we crave to understand it. Yet, we often keep it hidden, only peeking at how others explore it, hoping to gather hints without actively pursuing our own understanding.

We expect to be sexual beings without truly knowing ourselves or each other.

Sexuality is a vast and powerful topic, but at the same time, it is like the secret to happiness and satisfaction, which is not to add but to learn to subtract. 

Because I see sexuality as integral to our whole being, I write about it. We as a whole want to feel effervescent, to be awakened, and to come alive. We all want to belong, give, and take pleasure; we all need a deep sense of relaxation and feel at ease surrendering to the universe.

Sexuality is not a part of us; it is us, our whole being. 

When we look at our evolution, it becomes clear that sexuality is more than just a biological feature. Unlike many animals, we don’t die after mating or once our reproductive cycles are over. We thrive beyond our biological clocks.

We can feel pleasure whenever we want, and we have the unique ability to explore and understand our complexities.

Our ability to control our environment is a gift, allowing us to age and experience life in ways that nature has made possible for us.

Sexuality isn’t just about reproduction; it’s about experiencing life to its fullest. It’s about understanding and embracing our desires, our bodies, and our connections with others.

Let's not keep it in the "dark," but keep it intimate, mysterious, and alive. Understand it, and celebrate it as a vital part of your human experience. No shame for aging, no shame for how you look like, no shame for not knowing everything. No shame at all.

By letting go of unnecessary complexities and fears, we find a purer, more fulfilling experience of sexuality and life itself.

I write about sexuality from the far side of the moon; the bright side of the moon is already in the light, functional, and rational. We are there, at work, at home, paying our bills. 

I write about all the aspects of our identities, our emotions, our traumas with the hope that the moment we unlearn and relearn, we embrace simplicity, our nature, focus on what truly matters, and allow ourselves to thrive in both body and spirit.

Sexuality is not complicated; we are.